Build your own coach

Marshall Goldsmith recommends support using regular engagement with key questions.

At this point, a small warning: if you are interested in this topic, and a little distraction prone as you surf, you could find this a bit like going down a rabbit hole.  Or as my son says “Oh look, there’s a butterfly”

Questions for leaders/managers

Here are the questions that he suggests all leaders make it a habit to regularly ask their employees:

  1. Where do you think we should be going?
  2. Where do you think you and your part of the business should be going?
  3. What do you think you’re doing well?
  4. If you were the leader, what ideas would you have for you?
  5. How can I help?
  6. What suggestions or ideas do you have for me?


For individuals:

  1. Did I do my best to increase my happiness?
  2. Did I do my best to find meaning?
  3. Did I do my best to be engaged?
  4. Did I do my best to build positive relationships?
  5. Did I do my best to set clear goals?
  6. Did I do my best to make progress toward goal achievement?

Both these sets of questions you will note are really scary!!  Take care to note if you read Marshall’s postings or watch his videos (which are prolific and very very helpful) that these are for quite different purposes.

You will see some Buddhist tendencies.  I’m not a Buddhist, and in fact think some of the basic ideas are flawed (like law, but no law giver).  But there is some help and focus there anyway.  Marshall has talked about his influences, which you can Google.


What gets measured gets done. Marshall Goldsmith, a best-selling author and executive coaching expert, attests to this truth personally. He pays a woman named Kate to call him every day and listen to the answers to questions he has prepared for himself. This may sound odd, but working with a colleague is one of the most effective ways to make change happen.

This interested me, the idea of a call each day.

I went through a process of thinking for some time about getting a coach to help with this.  Partners are not good coaches (I knew that!!).  I have a special friend who has helped a lot, but I wanted to remain friends first.  I tried a few local coaches, but cost was a factor, plus it was difficult to get an idea from websites that basically were sales pitches.  Student Job search to the rescue.  “Train your own coach” I put in an advertisement.


Suffice to say I found a neat guy in the first response.  High social IQ.  We shall see how it goes.

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